Pajarita wrote:LOL - She is screaming because she wants to be part of what's going on. When you are talking with your husband, she interprets this as interaction and wants a part of it so walking into another room is not going to solve it - and neither will staying in her sight. Parrots are not dogs, to them company means been on top of you or so very close that her and your body are touching. Telling her in a firm voice to shut up is something you can do with a dog but not with a parrot who is just plain lonely and is screaming for company (again, visual company is not enough for them, touch is required). Your husband is sending wrong signals and confusing her because she is doing something that comes naturally to all parrots and, even if she wasn't, ordering her to do or not to do something doesn't work with them because they are not programmed to obey (only animals that evolved to live in hierarchical societies are). We can 'train' them to do certain things but it's not training like you train a dog which has been bred for thousands of generations to live with man, it's more like tricking them into complying by making them believe is their decision to do what we want them to (and it is! Imposing our will on them only breaks their spirit).
Does she have a strict schedule and daily routines? Awake with sunrise, breakfast, bath/interaction, noon rest, interaction, dinner, sleep? That helps a lot. But, when I say interaction, that means, at least, 2 hours of one-on-one time and another 2 or 3 of out of cage roaming. Parrots were created by nature to be surrounded from birth to death by a large extended family and, to them, bonding means doing EVERYTHING with their chosen one. It's very hard to accomplish this when you have a single parrot because you become the whole family and it's a huge onus on people, especially as they get older and start to lose patience waiting for things to change when they don't (that's when they start screaming, barbering, plucking, biting, etc). People call these 'undesirable' behaviors but, in reality, they are completely natural and understandable under the circumstances. Mind you, I am not scolding you, I am just stating a fact that people are never told at the breeder or petstore where they bought the bird. It's almost impossible for a human or two to keep a needy species happy and have a normal life at the same time. With the exception of a female Senegal, all my birds have companions of their own species and the only ones that are in cages have medical issues so it's easier for me but I still have no social life of my own and all my routines and schedules revolve around theirs.
Interesting to say the least. Yes to the question that she does have a schedule altho not the same as you stated.
Both my husband and I work. Lady is uncovered every weekday at 5:30 a.m. when the sun is beginning to rise. She is given fresh water and breakfast of roughly 2 tablespoons of seed mixture in her dish after I give her a piece of a walnut or a cashew from my hand because I do not include them in her food. This is what I have found to be her most motivated treat and tend on using it only as a reward. She always let's me pet her head when I go to put her water dish in it's place and will often say "open up". Before I leave out for work I check to see if she took a bath in her water and if she has she gets a new dish with fresh water. She really prefers to have a spray of water but does enjoy a bath at times. As I head for the door I always say bye, see you after work, love you.
When my husband comes home he also checks both her dishes and fills what is necessary if anything. Throughout the day she is in her cage as he works super early hours and most times when he comes home it is time for rest or sometimes chores around the house. I believe she has plenty of hanging toys, foot toys, as well as some forging toys with a corner to hide in with a hanging cloth made for birds if she wants to rest as well. I do like the idea of putting something else for her to eat like fresh/frozen or thawed fruit as well as greens and maybe some veggies. I will have to start keeping notes on what she prefers because if I am eating it she will also but I am not sure what she will eat if it just is sitting in a bowl. I have left a small bowl of veggies before but when I would come home they would still be right where I left them so I stopped leaving them and prefer to give them to her when we are hanging out.
My husband would never use the words "shut up" to her or anyone,it is just not words he would use, he just simply tells her to stop. As a matter of fact, he, in the past use to say, what's the matter, and now she has learned the phrase as well. He has also tried talking to her and when he was finished he would asking her "do you hear me?" she has since says the same phrase. I don't feel he is ordering her either. I have read that you should speak sternly when you are showing that you are not in agreement with what your bird is doing. That is the reason her tells her to stop.
As far as interaction, noon rest, interaction, dinner, then sleep, oh yes because this is what we all enjoy the most. She gets great afternoon rest under a sheet so she doesn't get distracted by anything. Dinner is my favorite time. This is the time I am home from work and can start my specific time with her. Her cage is then brought into another room from where she sleeps and the door is opened till bed time.
It is interesting that you say touch is required, because she will let me touch her but only on the top of her head and for short periods of time. If you say she is lonely due to not having another species of her kind then I don't know what I will do. I am not ready to take on another bird until I know all I can about my little Lady and get her to the stage where she is comfortable enough to step up and come away from her cage which I hope to be moving toward doing that now.
All this being said, and I do appreciate your insight, what then can we do to help her learn that screaming for attention when we are talking with each other is not a behavior we like.