Good! Now that things are back on the right track, lets see if I can be a bit more useful by seeing if I can help you to understand your parrots a little bit better.
Allow me to start this off by saying that for the most part, most of us have been raised around dogs and cats either those of our own or those that belong to other people and this is what forms our initial ideas of what to expect with a companion animal. We find it very easy to relate with dogs and cats and this is because they are domesticated, give their affections very readily and because they are like us in that they are mammals, are predators and evolved with a similar social structure. For all practical purposes we understand each other.
Now, regardless of how it came about we now have a parrot, or if afflicted with MBS ( multiple Bird Syndrome) parrots. My first parrot, Kiki, a female Senegal, escaped from a bad situation and flew to my home and demanded and received sanctuary. The problem is that they don't act anything like we have come to expect from a companion animal. We give them a nice cage, which we keep clean for them, we feed them and give them treats, we attempt to pet them or play with them and the either run away, fly away or bite us very hard and generally show no affection towards us, it is as if they don't even like us. The truth is that we try and try and end up hurt and frustrated by their lack of appreciation, in short we just can't make heads or tails of this, we simply don't understand them. Does this sound familiar to you? I am very certain that it does and to be honest with you, I went through this all with Kiki. For the entire first year of life with Kiki my hands and forearms were a mass of scabs from her repeatedly removing chunks of flesh from me. It was a difficult and painful period of time for me.
Parrots are very different than what we came to expect with the usual companion animals, so what is it that makes them so different from the others? Saying that they are birds is the truth, but it is also a cop out, lets look a bit deeper. Parrots are not domesticated, they are for all practical purposes still wild themselves and are only just a few generations removed from the wild ones still living in their natural habitats, and they retain all of these natural drives and instincts as do their wild kin.
Parrots are prey animals so their natural reactions are not anything that we are really familiar with, they do not perceive the world around them in the same manner as predators do and make no mistake about it, humans are as much a predator as is a wolf or a lion. We are also mammals while they are not and we have no real experience with reading the body language of a creature with feathers like we do with other mammals, who all have hair. They do not live naturally in the same type of social structure that we do. We and all of the other animals that we are familiar with live in the same type of social structure as we do, a dominance base society. This makes it difficult for us to understand them as they think and react to everything in a manner that we are unfamiliar with and it confuses us. Then to top all of this off they are self aware and intelligent. We like to think that dog and cats are self aware and intelligent, and this is a good thing, but they are truthfully no where near to being on the same level of being self aware or intelligent as a parrot is. Parrots are much closer to the level of self awareness and intelligence of humans than that of any other animal that I have ever met or lived with.
I should perhaps continue on with a basic Parrots 101 type of approach with this but lets jump ahead a bit to where you have acquired a parrot and you have brought it home with you.
You have just brought your parrot home and it won't come out of its cage or have anything to do with you. This is because of several things going on in its head. first of all it is afraid of its new home and the strange new human that now has it and it can see that it is a predator and doesn't know if it is on the menu or not. It has also been taken away from everything that was familiar with and that it felt safe with.
This is the explain as I go part of this. Parrots are territorial and do not readily accept change. They are flock animals and because of this they derive a certain amount of their sense of safety, security and wellbeing from their flock, such as their parents, their siblings other birds that live with them and even the humans that they have been with and have bonded with.
So how do you approach this scared little bird and make friends with it? You have to begin with accepting that this bird is going to require some time to adjust to its new environment which also includes you. The first inclination that we have to deal with this is to leave the bird to itself so that it can relax a bit, and this is a great ideas for a very limited period of time. Some humans like to allow a dat or so, but I really think that this is a mistake. First it will take a lot longer than just a few days and then there is the matter of them being flock animals that require the company of their flock for their feelings of security and well being. You may be the giant human predator that it is also afraid of, but you are also their new flock and if your bird is still a juvenile bird and not an adult then you are also its surrogate parent and it is dependent on you to take care of it and to teach it all of the things that it is going to need to know to live in its new environment with humans and any one else in it. you will also have to teach it what to eat and just about everything else, It will begin to develop a bond with you very quickly, even before you fully win its trust because it knows that it must depend on you. I told you that it was intelligent and self aware, right? So you start off by giving it a little space but you also need to be in the same room as it is and talk to it a lot. Let it see you as you go about your business while apparently not really paying attention to it other than by talking to it. It needs to get used to the sound of your voice as well as your presence so that it can get past its fear of you. Don't forget to name your bird as quickly as possible as its parents would have given it a name that they would have used all of its life when referring to it. They are self aware, they know who they are, so their name is as important to them as yours is to you. You spend a couple of days just hanging out in the same room as it is in talking softly to it using its name while giving it a huge amount of good bird type of praise and perhaps passing close to its cage and dropping a piece of sprig type of millet into its food dish and going back away from the cage. Of course there are the duties of cage cleaning and of providing food and water. Then on the morning of the second or third day you make two or three special times of 10 to 15 minutes each to work more specifically on earning your new birds trust without pushing it. You will come into the room and stop. Look at the bird and then start watching it from the corner of your eyes, so that it does not perceive you as a predator and begin softly talking to it, giving good bird praise and using its name in the process and when you see that your bird is relaxed and standing on one foot, start moving closer to its cage in a round about manner, stopping your approach every time that the bird starts getting nervous and moving closer when it relaxes. You may or may not make it to the cage during this first time period. If you do then spend the remaining time talking to it while next to its cage and offer it a piece of sprig type millet. When the time is up tell it good bye, using its name and promise to come back later on, and leave the room. After a few minutes you can go back in but keep your distance from the cage and just watch TV, read a book or whatever, even clean up the room. Do talk to the bird whenever you are in the room with it. After a few sessions, maybe even on the first one the bird will come over to take a bite or two from the sprig millet that you will offer it two or three times during these sessions, if it does not then leave a piece of the millet in its food dish before you leave and if it does take some of it from you , leave the last piece of millet for it in its food dish, This has the advantage that the bird learns that you are the bringer of good things for it to eat and also helps to build trust in the bird for you. Once the bird is taking bites from the millet that you are holding and calmly remaining there to get a second bite from you. it may be a good time to begin target training using these sessions for this purpose. Here is a link for doing this viewtopic.php?f=11&t=227
This is long enough and I am getting tired so I will pick on this next time.