I have an amazon and I must say either I have one in a million or they really are just like all other parrots. He does have stroppy times but you learn to recognise these and let him get on with it (kinda like a stroppy todddler). He has been with me for around 3 months now and like you I was totally unsure about what to do, I love that I have found this forum, (apart from the Dops comments) it has helped so much, he now lets me scratch him, comes up for nibbles on my neck, will step up on my arm etc.
I am not saying that it is easy, I was very nervous initially and that I think was my problem not Rodney's, and it does take time to get over this. My chair is next to his cage and has been since I have had him, and, following Micheal's advice, we have progressed far more quickly than I ever imagined. I honestly thought it would take about a year (not long in amazon terms).
So my advice would be follow the wonderful advice of the forums, ignore dorp, have lots of patience, perservere and you will be met with plenty of rewards from your amazon, I know I have
