I need some advies

[Nir]

not everyone is planning to get more then 1-2 birds. so the sacrifices financially and what your SO has to accept wont be as much. if a guy/girl isnt even willing to coexist with 1-2 birds then i think he really isnt emotionally attached to you therefore he needs the boot.

i agree about kids and the financial part and thats why i said that as long as the kid educates the parents to let him know of all the costs to come then it should be fine . but ya it is important for the parents to be involved. Thats also why i think people should buy their parrots themselves and take on the financial burden.

maybe this can be a motivation to get a good job.

[Cockatielsongs]

It's very true that pretty much all young bird owners rely financially on their parents. (I pay for regular monthly check ups but for emergencies etc my parents step in.) So as already said its alright if the parents understand and agree to costs that could appear. A lot of the time when it comes to children/teenagers is that they lose interest in the bird. For example my little sister got a budgie as something she wanted for her birthday, at first she was bent on making it her best friend, taming it and all, but after a week or two she lost interest and the responsibility of caring for the little girl fell to me. That's when I joined this forum. Later on through the year the budgie became sick, wouldn't walk, her eyes kept shutting, wouldn't eat or drink. Of course I went to my parents saying that we need to get her to the vets and they said. "Wait a bit, I'm sure she'll be alright." naturally I panicked and cried, I called the vets myself and I paid off the costs with all my birthday money and and more from my brother. After that all passed and my budgie was restored to health I sat down with my parents and talked them through everything, the costs that would come up etc etc. Fortunately my parents was more or less fond of Hedwig (the budgie) and after I said "If you cant pay for vet expenses, I'll have to rehome her." it hurt to say it but I wasn't going to keep Hedwig if I couldn't support her financially even though I loved her so much. My parents got the message and paid of emergancy, while I paid of regular check ups with money I worked for around the neighborhood.


When you get a bird you can never truely say that you are completely prepared, ready or that you know everything there is to know. A child, teenager or adult, what ever age group you are things will happen and hard decisions must be made. What ever age group you fit into doesn't tell you if you have to give things up, make sacrifices, you will have to at one point, some more then others. Certainly when you are a teenager its inevitable, being a good parront at that age means you have to give up a lot of stuff. For me it included turning down over night trips with my friends, parties, I couldn't always afford to buy things wanted because all the money I worked for kept going back to my birds, I made those choices willingly because my bird needed me. If a person who wants a bird cant understand that, a bird isn't right for you. All birds are demanding, some more then other species and that isn't their fault. If you cant deal with the behavioral problems, the amount of patience and dedication you have to give and more, go get a goldfish. It all good that people research for days, weeks, months or years but you're never going to be truly ready.


Knowing all this doesn't and shouldn't make you get scared to get a bird, or get scared to return and ask for help, after all its what we are all here for. We shouldn't make you not want to come back when you need help. What we say shouldn't decide for you whether you get a bird, the decision is yours alone, after all, you are the one who knows your life style not the members of this forum. After reading all this and you still believe that you have a suited life style for a bird, and get one, thats great! Who are we to judge? I really hope that what has been said isn't holding you back from asking for help. Any questions at all we will be here to answer.