by Wolf » Fri Aug 15, 2014 6:53 am
I realize how difficult this all is and even with just one bird there is simply not enough time in the day especially when one must work and go to school on top of that.
Everything that we have said thus far is true and at some point need to be addressed and corrected for the birds sake. But as we go back and forth and more of Benney's story unfolds we, get closer to the underlying issue that is causing him to react in the manner that he does.
What I am seeing at this point in his story is pure unmitigated terror. He wants to have the attention, and indeed, he craves it as it is hardwired into his nature, but he is so traumatized, and fearful that he can't get there on his own.
Try to look at it from his perspective and only with the information that you have given to us, write it down, without our responses if you must. What I see is that Benny was terrorized before he came to you. I see you trying to reach out to him using what you know, especially what has worked in the past with your other birds. But nothing helps for any length of time. You finally come here and ask for help and most of what you get you have tried before, maybe not all of it but a good part of it.
Now, as Benny's tale progresses, I get a familiar sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, and I am getting the familiar rushes of anger, anger at those who did this to him in the first place and anger at myself for not seeing sooner.
I only have two animals in my keeping that have not been through this type of abuse before they came to me. The rest of them were driven to the brink of insanity. The mildest of them has taken over a year to begin to act normally and the rest are still having bouts of memory that they can't quite get past. It is a long road to recovery and it takes time.
First of all try to find a quieter spot for him to be where he can still get natural light. Keep working on getting him on a good diet. The rest is mainly an investment of time,I know that this is a commodity that is at a premium, but he needs it. Luckily you can do this in 15 minute sessions. It would be best to do 4 sessions per day but if two is all you can do it will just take longer to work.
I want you to pay special attention to what Benny does when you begin to approach his cage and just as soon as he starts to move away in his cage or reacts poorly stop and take 1 step back and do not move any closer to him during this session. Now all I want you to do is to talk to him, be sure to include lots of words of praise for him. I usually talk about what I want the relationship between us to be like and things that I would like to be able to do with them. It sounds real and honest to them and because of this it also helps to reassure them. At the end of the session say good bye and walk away. Do this exactly each session, it is vital to success that you stop your approach at the first signs of discomfort on Benny's part. You can not succeed if you try to push things faster, you can only progress as fast as Benny can. I can't say how long it will take but eventually you will make it to his cage without any reaction from him.
When this happens then you will go to the front of his cage, remember to approach slowly. From there you just continue to talk to him, but now you bring along three or four treats for him and since he has a partner in his cage the same for her. You will offer these treats randomly throughout the session, and if the female is the more receptive offer her treat first and his right after. If he takes the treat fine, if not just place it so that he can still get it when he want it. Never leave with a treat that you have offered to them. Once Benny successfully takes the treats from you calmly through three complete sessions then you progress to opening the cage door and the treats are offered directly from your fingers. When Benny takes these treats from you for three sessions, in a calm manner, then and only then you can begin to target train him and get things going on more familiar ground.
This all may sound trivial to you, but this is basic taming and its sole purpose is to reassure Benny and to begin to gain his trust, which after what he has been through is not an easy task for either of you. Each tiny step, each time he remains calm with you is a major accomplishment for him. It is not an easy thing to come back from where he is now, some birds never make it back. But from what I am seeing Benny is fighting and trying to act like he knows that he should but the fear is there blocking the way and creates too much conflict between what has occurred to him and his natural nature. Be calm and be patient with him, his mind is in a fragile state.