I understand that you have problems, but don't we all? As long as you are willing to talk and ask questions, we will keep trying to give you good answers. Myself, I don't care if I have to answer the same question one time or 50 times, if you don't understand what I am saying then I will keep trying and try to explain it differently as many times as you require it.
Just like you can read things and not understand it, the only way that I, and possibly we, will ever actually understand what autism does to a person is to be exposed to it. There are things that books and reading just can't explain to us in a meaningful way.
We have people that are members that have various mental and emotional issues, I have severe depressions others have other issues. We keep talking and both sides keep trying to understand the other better. All I can say is that you have one type of problem and I have another, the only way that we are going to really understand each other and how these problems affect us is to keep talking and trying to understand the other. Again, please do what ever you think is right for you.
As for helping your bird when you notice that one is sick, the illness has gone on long enough that the best thing to do is to get it to the vet as soon as is possible and that is the first thing that I said to you. From there I went on to explain what to do from now on by relating it to the current problem.
The only reason that any of us are here other than to learn more about our birds is to try and help other peoples birds, And despite you having a different mental issue than I have, I really don't think that your reasons are very much different than mine. It just takes some understanding from both sides and it may take several times to say something so that the other one understands what you are saying. So we keep trying. Understanding is a two way street it must flow from us to you and from you to us. No one ever said that it would always be easy.