Nir wrote:And not sure why everyone is repeating that i want everything "now" and that i have to rethink . I know that this will be a long process to tame and i am sure every person who bought home a new baby had to go through this blood biting phase in the beginning a la mike and others. So i will keep trying. I already emphasized that i will go as slow as possible. But i am a newbie in this and i dont understand everything, This is why i am asking questions on when is the right time. Just because i might ask "dumb" questions doesnt mean i will just fast forward this. I will go as slow as needed. i am "reading through " what everyone is saying but understanding how to implement it isnt exactly easy for a first time bigger bird owner but i am doing the best i can.
I don't think anyone thinks you are asking "dumb" questions and there is nothing wrong with being a newbie. I understand that you are having some trouble implementing things because it is certainly one thing to read about something and another to try to do it in practice.
However, the reason why people are saying you want everything "now" despite the fact that you are emphasizing that you will go as slow as possible is that yes, you say you'll go slow but then you say things like this:
Nir wrote:reason i want to tame her as soon as possible instead of taking months is so i can start socializing her to everyone. ... I figured that no way i can wait a lief time to just tame her since the socialization will take a major hit.
...in addition to the fact that you have only had your Poi since the 16th, meaning it hasn't even been a week, and you're already wanting to push
past targeting when she's only been doing that for a few days!
By no means am I trying to attack you personally (you are doing a lot of research and are here asking questions and that is
wonderful) but please understand that your mindset in regards to taming is way off. I don't think it's intentional but I just think you're inherently misunderstanding parrots. Birds are not domesticated like cats and dogs, and unlike a cat or a dog they don't naturally trust humans and they don't naturally desire human contact.
The bird should not be on any schedule but its own. You should not be thinking in terms of "I want to tame her as soon as possible so I can socialize her immediately" because this is very demanding of a young bird in a brand-new environment. Rather, you should be thinking "my long-term goal is to have a tame, well-socialized bird."
No one is saying it's going to take a "lifetime" to tame her but taming is a process that takes time because more than anything you have to earn the bird's trust in regards to being handled. If it takes weeks or months for her to be comfortable with handling, that's fine, and socialization long-term will
not suffer if you're not able to have other people handle her for a few weeks or months due to having to tame her first.
The reason why everyone keeps telling you to slow down is because you can majorly blow it with your bird if you push it too far, too fast. You have to understand that when you are clicker-training you are "capturing"
everything you click, and what I mean by that is you need the bird to be calm when it hears that click. If you are pushing the bird too far, sure, maybe it's doing the desired behavior but if the bird is agitated or fearful or aggressive while doing said behavior and you click and treat you have just "captured" the fear or aggression as part of the behavior!
Nir wrote:Also I have a feeling that if i put my finger anywhere near reachable then she will go ahead and bite regadless of target training.
That just means she's being pushed too far, too fast.
Nir wrote:I had purchased a training video from birdtricks (i believe michael learned from them as well so it seems legit) and 1 of the videos had a video of teaching to step up with using 2 sticks. placing 1 stick near her mouth so she doesnt aim at the other perch to bite it when you use it to step her up. And slowly you keep moving your finger closer and closer to the edge and keep moving the other perch which will be near her mouth further and further away. Would that be a better approach if the targeting method to step up doesnt work.
I think you just described using a perch to distract from a bite, but this is exactly the purpose of the targeting stick: distracting from a bite.
If you don't think you can target your bird closer and closer to your hand work on targeting your bird onto and off of a hand-held perch first. If the first thing your bird does is go for your hand once on the perch, don't give it that opportunity! Use the targeting stick and treats to distract it, meaning target it onto the perch, click, treat, target it right off, click, treat. Once it will sit on the perch without going for your hand you can slowly move your hand across the perch so there's less and less perch and the bird is closer to your hand.
The BirdTricks.com blog has a very good post about overcoming "hand hatred":
Overcoming Hand Hatred with Alexandrine Parrot. Your bird is far too young to have "hand hatred" because that is something that is learned, but the reason why I am linking it is because the article has a good series of pictures and videos showing how over time (two months) they taught a biting parrot to step-up, and the videos on Michael's article on step-up are currently not working. Hopefully the visualizations will be helpful.