My parrot only allows scratches at night? So weird...

[Pajarita]

Also, how high are his perches? (They like to perch at our eye level, makes them feel safer).

Two of the male AFRBs I know of have been with their owners for years and the third for about 10 months.

You need to establish a strict schedule/routine. Knowing what is going to happen and when goes a long way toward reassuring them and giving them a sense of control over their own lives.