Too soon for another bird?

[Crazypetlady]

So as you might have read in my thread "On of my conures flew away..." on saturday. Just 4 days ago. I miss that bird but not so much that I'm going to go on bereavement for 10 years like I did when I lost my first CAG. I couldn't get another bird for TEN YEARS after that devastating loss.

Now I feel almost the opposite. I'm ready to fill the void that Kahlo's loss has left in the house. I still hope that they find her but after 4 days, I think the chances of that are slim to none. If they *do* find her, tho, then I will be happier than you can imagine. But, having said that.. I've been looking around at conures up for adoption on craig's list and on petfinder.com. And I found one conure that sounds perfect. He's a male adult green cheek conure and I've been emailing what I believe is the woman who is fostering him. They live pretty far away but I'd be willing to drive that far if I was given the green light to adopt him.

Do you guys think it's too soon tho? My husband is upset with me for wanting to adopt another bird now. But to tell you the truth, I secretly hope that Kahlo is found *anyway* so that we'd just have that many more birds around. I *love* birds and sometimes I can't believe how I purposefully deprived myself of the company of birds for TEN YEARS after the loss of my cag Indiana.

[pennyandrocky]

if it's not to replace the other and still hope to get her back i say it's up to you if you want to add another.when i lost cebal i swore i would never get another, then i was drawn to rescues and wanted to give another bird a happy loving home.

[Crazypetlady]

if it's not to replace the other and still hope to get her back i say it's up to you if you want to add another.when i lost cebal i swore i would never get another, then i was drawn to rescues and wanted to give another bird a happy loving home.

I decided to wait for 3 months. I found out that my sun conure tested positive for chlamydia and it's going to take a couple of months to eradiate that from them and sanitize their toys, etc. So I'm going to wait 3 months. :/

[marie83]

For me it would be too soon because it would eat into time I could be out looking, spreading the word and putting flyers/posters about etc. There obviously comes a point where you've done everything realistically possible to get your bird back though. Ultimately its up to you on how much time and energy you devote to trying to get your bird back even if you haven't lost hope but for me 4 days would be far too soon to cut back on focusing all my energy onto it in normal circumstances. At the moment, if one of mine went missing, I probably would be forced to do so cuz of work, college, mum in hospital and my other bird to care for but then I wouldn't have time to take on another bird anyway sadly.
Do whats right for you if all members of your household are agreeable (I do think it is important for everyone to hopefully agree or at least reach a compromise), maybe they aren't ready yet but will reconsider after a set period of time? You will only know if you ask. I wouldn't give up on putting the word round the neighbouring places where she went missing just yet because birds have been missing alot longer and turned up safe and sound, I'm not saying you would anyway but it's easy to lose hope.

Three months sounds a good realistic period regardless of you only postponing because of the illness, it gives you and your family time to grieve for their loss and come round to the idea of a new family member and fingers crossed welcoming your dusky back home.

[liz]

I am so sorry that your baby flew away. I noticed that you are in Florida. If he is not found he has a very good chance of survival.

MumtoRory lost Rory the cockatiel when he flew away. She is in Australia. It is a good chance that he found a flock of tiels.

I had taken a cage out with my two tiels to let them in the grass with the bottom of the cage open. I did not secure the bottom when bringing them in. It fell off and Bubba flew out. He stayed in a tree the rest of the day trying to call Sweetie out. At night he slept in the Red Tip bushes with the wild birds that he knew through the screen. They stayed in the area for two more days. When the wild birds flew away Bubba went with them. My neighbors saw him in his new flock. All I could do is hope that he stayed with them and migrated.

It is good that you found out about the other birds illness before you got another.

Good luck.

[Bobioden]

Only YOU can decide when is too soon for another bird. If you feel it, go for it.

[MikeLK]

I think once the dust settles getting another one is a great idea. Especially if it is a rescue bird because you would not only be filling a void in your life, you'd be doing the same for the bird.
Mike

[Crazypetlady]

I have my eyes on a rescue right now actually and have been in contact with the foster. They know not to move on my application for 3 months. I have to get rid of the chlamydia and sanitize everything before anyone with birds is welcome to come around. I don't want them carrying this thing back to their birds. If this bird is no longer available at the end of the 3 months, then so be it. There is never a short supply of birds needing homes.

As for Kahlo, I feel that I can't do any more to find her. I have distributed flyers. I have traversed the entire property looking up at trees and listening out for her 2 days in a row. And I have put an add in the major local paper which will run for 5 days. starting friday.

They have not seen her since Sunday and it's probable that she has become hawk food already. I broke down at therapy over this bird yesterday. It sucks. MAJORLY. that the bird that happened to fly away is the one that my sister entrusted me with last year. I think she regrets giving her to me now. But not as much as I regret losing her. Still, I chose not to wallow. I have learned my lesson not to do stupid things like open a damned bird carrier in the middle of the parking lot. I will never do that again. But I have to start moving on already. It hasn't even been 1 week. but I have to move on already.

I decided that I'm getting a green cheek conure. I was looking at nandays as well but after seeing one in the pet store, they seemed huge! And having one CAG is enough big for me. i don't know if a nanday and a sun conure can live together anyway. I want something that will bond (or have the potential) to sunny.