What to do?

[karl morton]

Hi, I hope all is well in parrot world as for me and my two babies (Jada) & (Ty ) we are doing fine. But I have a general question that i want to ask to forum to give some feed back on if i'm doing the right thing so now i'm gonna try to explain the situation.
I adopted an about 4 months ago and I am having issues with trying to adapt him to his new home and to me. He is very nervous and when I approach the cage he act as if I was going to hurt him.
TY will not let me touch him at all but will allow me to put water and food in his cage. Any other approach he acts as if I was his enemy. I have decided to not push my love on him and give him his space and time to see if he becomes adaptable to the human touch.
My daughter was raised from 7 weeks old by me and we have a very close bond. She has been socialized and very adaptable to change. TY is supposably 2 years old next month and I have made many attempts to socialize him but each time it has been unsuccesful.
My question is I continue to take Jada (daughter) to all my events. Is it ok to seperate the 2 or should I continue to force him into different social events. I have to towel him because he puts such a fight up squalling, jumping and thrashing all over the cage. I discontinued this because I was afraid he would hurt himself and develop a phobia of me.
Any advise on what I should do to adapt him not only to me but around other social activities.
Thanks,
Karl,

[marie83]

Sit outside his cage and talk to him or read to him if you dont know what to say. When he is used to you being there you can start giving him treats through the bars, he will get tempted enough to come and get one eventually.
Once he is completely calm with that you can start opening the cage and feeding him treats with the door open. Wait for him to come and get them, don't stick ur hand in.
When you both feel ready you can put a perch on the outside of his cage for him to climb onto to get his treats.

Once he is 100% happy to come out onto his perch and he is used to you you can begin training step up.
You did the right thing to forget about towelling him, you can towell train him at a later date if you want to. I suggest you do because it will reduce stress when he needs it, but not until he trusts you fully.
Forget the idea of taking him anywhere until he trusts you, continue taking your other one as normal though. It won't do him any harm to see you two going out, it may even help him to see how trusting she is in you.

Take things at his pace and take a step backwards if and when you need to.

Good luck.

[liz]

Are they both flighted? Open the door. Let them come out in your world instead of you trying to touch them in their world (cage).

Do this when you have plenty of time. Once out they could be out for hours.

[karl morton]

Thanks Marie83 I will what you suggested a try and see how it goes. Although when jada and I returned home he didn't seem as nervous as he normally is when I get close to his cage. @ Liz yes they are both flighted and I open the cage doors every afternoon when I'm home from work.... thanks alot marie83, Liz.... Karl

[marie83]

I think in some cases when a birds new the first few days can be easier, it's so unsure of everything that its overwhelmed and just accepts certain things. Once it starts feeling a bit more comfortable it then starts to have more confidence to say ''woah, I dont like this at all, back off''.

I believe this is more common with rescue/rehomes where the previous owner got rid of the bird because of a behaviour issue, say for example biting/screaming. The new owner will think there isn't a problem for the first few days because the bird is unsettled and on its best behaviour so it doesn't draw in unwanted attention, once it feels a bit safer the old behaviour returns unless the new owner knows how to handle it.

Keep us updated please.

[karl morton]

Thanks, and I will keep you updated.