PLEASE HELP

[lori29forever]

Have had my goffin cockatoo for 13 years. Her name is Little Bit. She never bites me and is very lovable. my boyfriend stepped in picture a year ago. they have gotten very close as she stays at his house week at at time. Little Bit now sees me and bites me if I come near Bill. Literally i will sit down and she will attack me . this weekend ...5 times. Im just devasatated. Love this bird and had her since she was 6 months old. Little Bit is now home with me all the time and just getting meaner with me. She seems to be in a constant state of hormone as if you touch her back she shakes like having an orgasm. My bf didnt understand what that was so he would touch her when she was like that..not in a weird way but he thought it was good for her. I told him to stop and he doesnt anymore. hes never had a bird. I have owned several birds. Its liek I am the other woman now and she is literally attacking me. Please help..I lover her dearly and not sure what to do. is she literally in her high reproductive age at 13? How can I get her to stop biting me and can she be around Bill anymore? Any help, Id appreciate it so very much....Lori

[marie83]

Are you saying she is more bonded to your boyfriend now and protective/jealous over you? or she is still more bonded to you, doesnt like your boyfriend and is attacking you?

[janetafloat]

It's reading to me like the bird has got a crush on the bf & is turning against lori29forever as 'the other woman'

[CSLFiero]

Take her on Jerry springer and whoop her! Seriously though, I've heard you can use access to your bf as a kind of reward for being nice to you working before. There are other methods to expedite the hormonal times of year, but I'm no expert or even novice on those subjects.

[Strawfrawg]

The part about her attacking if you come near your mutual bf sounds like jealousy to me. She wants him all to herself and may be resenting not having access now. My bf's Sennie used to bite me if I came near him...she'd fly over from her perch and get between us, hissing and biting with her wings raised. Your case sounds like a more extreme situation because of what's happening at home between the two of you, but in our case we were able to solve it fairly easily. I would come into the room alone and have her sit with me, and then have David come in. As he approached I would give her a treat, and he would sit down while she was eating it. If she continued to behave after she finished, I would reward her again. If she started acting up, no treat until she calmed down. If she didn't calm down, David would get up and leave. It took a couple of weeks but she eventually got over it. When I was at David's house, I was the only one who gave treats for a couple of months. She eventually got the message that I was the one she had to be buddies with.

Good luck...I hope somebody with proper experience chimes in, and I look forward to hearing what happens.

[janetafloat]

That sounds like good advice, strawfrawg.It's a difficult situation for you lori29forever, I feel your pain. I'm certainly not an expert but I would suggest this needs to be approached on two fronts. Firstly you need to address the various environmental factors that could be encouraging your bird to become hormonal. If you search on this site there's a lot of discussion about this topic, in fact there's a current thread discussing this. I don't know enough about it to advise you but I know stuff like light, over feeding, temperature etc can cause a bird to start getting hormonal. Secondly you & Bill need to work on this situation together, something along the lines of the way that strawfrawg & her bf addressed their situation.
Sorry I can't be more specific but hope it gives you some ideas. Good luck, I'm sure that with time & persistence you can come through this!

[Strawfrawg]

Nothing worse than having a bird PMSing round the clock. I don't know much about bird hormones, but janetafloat sounds like she has good ideas.

I had a male hormone issue with my cockatiel...he was a chronic masturbator! The little punk was always trying to mate with my hand....

[chewy_num]

It's sort of thing that females birds bond with men and male birds with women. Not sure why but seems to work that way... Your bird saw you as a very close and trusted friends/partner since you got her but now that a MAN has shown up she's all like 'i HAVE to get me some of him!' sadly your partner rubbing her like that hasn't helped she knows he likes her enough to give her well a birdy orgasm... So she find you a threat to the relationship. She knows your a friend but see's you more as a rival now because there is a guy on the scene.

Best bet is to tell him what has happened and too slowly start to ignore her and break the bond, don't rub or stritch her in any 'danger' places and wean her off him. While this is happening try to become friends with her again. You be the one to give treats, not him. You do special activities with her like playing and cuddling. Have to show her you're her bird and not his. It could get tough and maybe ugly but she'll warm back up to you...

Good Luck!!!