Eurycerus wrote:What's the story on your poi? Was a woman mean to him?
His original background was that he was with an elderly lady who just kept buying birds until she had so many she was overwhelmed and surrendered them all. When he came to us he was very fearful (and he was this way when we visited him at the rescue as well) so I don't think he had been handled very much. However, he would step-up onto my hand so I think in time we could have been friends if he hadn't been sick.
Sadly he was sick and we realized it a few days after adopting him so I had to take him to the vet. He was still okay with stepping-up after the first vet visit. However, he did not get better and I had to take him to the vet again, and after that second visit he would run screaming from me if I approached him with my hand. The vet could not diagnose his illness despite repeated visits over the course of six months. He was poked, prodded, restrained, had injections, had blood drawn, and was even anesthetized to have x-rays.
After six months I took him to a different vet. They were not able to identify his illness initially but on the second or third visit they did a sinus flush which led to a diagnosis of strep pneumoniae. It took another six months to treat him and the treatment included a monthly sinus flush which he despised; he would pout for days after he had one and I don't really blame him because having a sinus flush looked like a miserable experience.
I estimate that he had ~25 vet visits over the course of his first year with us and both vets and every vet technician that assisted was a woman. On top of that
I was the one who was bringing him to the vet in the first place and I was sitting there in the room while he had all these horrible procedures. As a result his opinion of me and women in general is pretty low. My husband can scratch his head or get him to step-up onto his hand but I cannot.
I have been doing positive reinforcement training with him over the past year in hopes that our relationship would improve but so far it hasn't.

My super long-term goal is to be able to touch him and hold him on my hand but at this point I think he will always dislike me. When I approach him he gives very clear signals that he wants me to leave such as turning his back to me, raising the feathers on his cheeks, or pretending to yawn in an exaggerated way over and over again (silly bird). Sometimes he will do this if I just
talk to him from across the room! Occasionally if he is in a really bad mood he will growl or hiss at me.
Eurycerus wrote:He always has to keep an eye on me though, that's probably why it's been difficult. He is having an internal battle over whether to let me give him a head scratch or keep watching me.
Aw, poor Diggy! My Poi would just stare at me and my husband all day, too. When he ate he would grab a pellet from his dish as quickly as he could and then turn around and just stare at us the whole time he ate it. Over time he stopped feeling as threatened and he's not like that anymore. Diggy will come around.
