worst experience to date and any thoughts?

[borosics]

This has been the worst experience to date. I love animals and having to give one up is insanely hard. I had a Conure from birth, Marvin, and he was my pal. He learned to kind of speak, he would step up, all kinds of things. However once he reached his sexual maturity he started masturbating and becoming aggressive with me. specialists told me we had bonded in a way that made him think we were Martin patterns. Things got worse anf worse and more violent and i was running out of time and money. Finally I found an incredible animal rescue independently owned 'Feathered Moments' and he stayed there for a while only for everyone to discover he hates women and is violent! Since then the rescue gave him to another trusted source as it was too much for her, being a woman and all. Now the people who took on Marvin are selling him again and not including in his add Marvin name, which he responds to as he is now 30th or the fact that he is aggressive to women. Ive contacted him so hopefully he'll change it. During all of this I had bought another Conure to potential be ftiends with Marvin hoping it would kick his behavoir. Now im stuck without Marvin and a new conure who, himself, was moved from home to home before he was with me and is so terrified and ots been 3-4 months.

Any advice or thoughts or comments would be nice. Feel free to email me directly.

[liz]

If Marvin is being passed around like that it won't be long before someone is really mean and hurtful to him. Parrot abuse and neglect are common with ignorant people.
Just because you got another one does not mean Marvin will bond with it.
Get Marvin back and put him in the biggest cage you can afford. He cannot hurt you from a cage. He may outgrow his problem. He may want to bond to the other parrot. He may do neither one but until you can find a parrot parent that can handle him you need to keep him safe.

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[Wolf]

Actually there is nothing wrong with Marvin and it is nothing that you can't fix for him although it will take some time. Marvin is overly hormonal and this can and must be remedied The aggression is caused by first the hormones and secondly because he is in pain. His problem is about like if someone put a vise on your genitals, that type of pain. Get Marvin back and lets fix this issue for him.
As for your new conure you need to realize that despite being move from pillar to post, so to speak, he will have an initial period of grieving each time he was rehomed and this has also destroyed his trust in humans and you will need to be patient if you hope to restore it and build a good relationship with him. To begin with sit near his cage and talk to him, even sing to him and praise him for being a good bird. Don't try to touch him or ask anything of him for now. You can offer him a piece of millet every so often while you talk to him. What you are looking for during this stage if for him to start coming to the side of the cage as you are on when you first go over to talk to him.
Start doing this and tell me as much as you can about him as well as an average day in his life since you have had him, beginning with the time he gets up and goes to bed, include what you feed him and when you feed it to him. Does he get any time out of his cage on a daily basis and if so how much time? Is he clipped or not? There is nothing wrong with this bird or with Marvin that we can't help you to fix if you will put in the time to do it.

[Pajarita]

Indeed, Wolf is right, Marvin's problem is a very common one and perfectly fixable. It's just that people are never told when they first acquire a bird that it needs to be kept at a bird schedule both for light and diet instead of a human one. Doing so would mess up his endocrine system and make him overly hormonal but, thankfully, once you adjust your husbandry, the problem disappears in time (it takes a while but it works like a charm). Please, please, please, get poor Marvin back!