It's been a while since my last entry here in Sunflower's Diary. Over the holidays, my septuagenarian mother suffered a stroke and had to be rushed to the hospital. She's stable now but must undergo therapy to get back the functions of her left arm and leg.
Anyway, because of this incident I had to be absent away from Sunflower for a few days at a time to help out in caring for my mom. She lives almost 2 hours and a couple of hundred pesos away so I have to take 3-4 days away from my family each week.
When I got home about the time of the New Year festivities, it seemed like I had to redo my acquaintances with Sunflower from scratch. He wouldn't eat from my hands again and he'd even be spooked when I used the chopsticks to feed him. Somehow, he looked a bit thin although I'm sure my wife and son were feeding him regularly.
Fortunately, the "learning curve" (if you might call it that) this time was significantly shorter. Sunflower began receiving seeds using the chopsticks method and eventually from my hands within a week. Compared to the month and a half that we started taming Sunflower, that is certainly a big jump.
This week, we had a little "stand-off", Sunflower and I. One morning I was trying to feed him through chopsticks (I needed to do so because he would display aggressiveness or a bit of a wild attitude but only in the mornings; by late afternoon he didn't mind anymore eating off my hands) when the seeds kept slipping and my arms we're getting shaky already. So I got tired of the chopsticks method and just took the seed and placed my hand in Sunflower's cage.
Sunflower would then cling to the far side of the cage away from my intruding hand, despite my seed offering. Unfortunately or fortunately -- depending on how you look at it -- I lost my patience and I started tapping the outside of the cage with a plastic stick that was lying around, sort of like prodding Sunflower back closer onto his perch so that I can feed him properly. All the while my feeding hand was steady inside near the cage doors.
As may be expected, Sunflower would fly around the cage with an obvious annoyance. But every time he landed on his perch I would retract the external stick. Once he calmed down, I would offer the seed and he would eventually take it off my fingers. After a few more rounds of this "I'm the boss" match, Sunflower seemed to not mind my hand anymore.
Now, Sunflower would take seeds off my hands whether it was early morning or late in the day. Although he would try to assert himself at times, chirping out loud and flapping his wings as if to say, "this is my territory, stand back", I don't have to use the chopsticks method anymore to come close to Sunflower. At times, the sight of the external stick would be enough for him to calm down.
In a sense, we have broken at least one of the barriers in our relationship. Somehow, we have established that I could have access into his domain albeit its in the context of "whether you like it or not". Hopefully the realization that we are his friends and not foes would come soon and that this access would ultimately graduate into something like "come in, you are welcome here".
I know that what happened, our little stand-off was closer to negative reinforcement and may even border to outright punishment which may not appeal to many here. I hope you guys understand though that I was still very conscious about Sunflower's welfare. But I've come to the conclusion that there are cases where both positive and negative conditioning are applicable insofar as trying to build a relationship even with our feathered friends.
