hi I'm a new ringneck. owner

[marie83]

And I thought we were not allowed to be rude on this forum, but that's all I've got so far,and my son isn't torturing the bird his too small to even know what his doing is freaking th bird out

and I wouldn't bring any harm to the bird knowingly coz I paid a whole lot for it from my own pocket

If he is too young to be taught you need to keep him away until he is old enough to learn.
and apart from me saying that about kids, I havent seen anyone being rude to you, but tbh I'm more angry than being intentionally rude...

[Eric&Rebecca]

We aren't trying to be rude to you, I admit we are very critical. In fact the owner of the forum, I hope Michael won't mind me saying is very critical, but for the purpose of ensuring yours and your birds safety.

I understand that your son is young, this could be a great opportunity for your son to know birds from a young age. If your son is too young to understand that his noise and actions are unsuitable I really do get that but then you need to keep the bird and your son separate for a while. As I've pointed out to you, children will be children but having spent all this money from your pocket on the bird you want the best for the bird and that money to be worth it by having a long living and healthy bird.

The bird will not cope with this behaviour, your neighbour's bird may be used to these noises and be ok with it but this new bird is not. If you can explain to your son how to behave around the bird it will all be fine. Maybe sit with him and make it into a game about being quiet for the bird and then gradually each day learn to go closer like that game I used to play as a child... can't remember what it was called now. Whats the time or something... Although may want to leave out the bit where you jump and make loads of noise at the end.

Stand outside the door of your bird room and say "now remember you have to be very quiet or *insert birds name* won't be happy". Children are excitable because it's a pretty bird and they want to play and that's great later on but it will need a lot of work before you get to that stage. Hence why we are all recommending keeping the bird and your son separate until they can BOTH learn to tolerate eachother and eventually bond. During this time you can work with the bird yourself and he will start making noise... A LOT of noise and you can tame him so the process fo bonding will be easier between the bird and your son. Then we can advise you as you go along.
As new bird owners there's a list of things you will need to do (previous posts), and I just wish to advise you of this which is why I mentioned the essentials you will need. This is all important to the eventual result you want which is a long living bird that your son can bond with at a young age. We advise you of this also for your son's safety, its quite likely he will get bitten. As good a parent as you are and as careful as you are its inevitable, I have been bitten very badly throughout taming processes.
It's very important to keep the bird healthy and as you rescued this bird from a pet shop I am just advising you of proper care as they pet shop may not inform you correctly. I think people are being critical because this can kill your bird. I'm not being rude or over exaggerating its just the truth and I don't blame you for thinking we are being harsh but it can escalate to a serious situation.
Your son doesn't understand and that's fair enough and no one is blaming him for that but the bird will be terrrfied. Just a lot of patience and some understanding and this will be rectified. Keeping the apart now will be for the greater good.

I hope you don't find my posts rude, or offensive because the advice I am giving you will really help and give you the end result you desire. I am happy to give any further advice that you need.

[Eric&Rebecca]

Also the talking may come, in fact higher pitched voices like women or children's normal voices are good for parrots to listen and imitate. My cockatiels copy from me and not my partner. However, no screaming, as tempting as it has been when they say something new! Just a normal level of speaking from you or a child will be enough but this will be something to address much later when the bird is more settled

Like I said I am happy to help you and I'm glad you got that bird out of that petshop but you have to accept what we are saying because there is a great collection of highly experienced people on this forum. Perhaps try answering some of our questions like where are you from? We could even help you locate a good avian vet for your new addition to have check ups and stuff

Despite what you may think of the way we phrase things we are just trying to help you.

[Cockatielsongs]

And I thought we were not allowed to be rude on this forum, but that's all I've got so far,and my son isn't torturing the bird his too small to even know what his doing is freaking th bird out

and I wouldn't bring any harm to the bird knowingly coz I paid a whole lot for it from my own pocket

We are not being rude, perhaps rather critical I understand that but we're just trying to help.

[Cockatielsongs]

The very first time I got a bird, my cockatiel, my little sister who freak the bird out, similar to your case. Surprise surprise she got bitten so hard she screamed and cried and bled a bit. And this was from the small beak of a cockatiel. She learnt that she needed to be quiet and respectful... The hard way which you wouldn't want to happen to your son from the beak of a ringneckwhich im sure packs a harder bite. Talk to your son, tell him of he wants to be friends with the bird he has be as quiet as a mouse or else the bird will be sad. Make him think its a game he has to win! Make behaving around the bird fun!

As said above, there are many highly experienced owners trying to help you, though you may not like what you read from us we are only caring about the birds health and wellbeing and your sons safety. The advise given from us you may dislike but I ask you for the sake of your bird and son, act on what we've said. This is a lovely forum with respectful people who are willing to help you but not everything we have to say here will be good.

[Cockatielsongs]

make it into a game about being quiet for the bird and then gradually each day learn to go closer like that game I used to play as a child... can't remember what it was called now. Whats the time or something... Although may want to leave out the bit where you jump and make loads of noise in the end.

Was is called Whats The Time Mr Wolf? where you have creep silently closer and closer haha I use to play that too! Excellent game for children to play around nervous birds! Im sure your son will love it!