by Pajarita » Sun Nov 30, 2014 11:28 am
First of all, thank you for taking in a bird that needs help! Now, a word of caution, birds that have been neglected or abused and are afraid of people would step up and even allow you to touch them (there are two kinds, the ones that are 'broken' and the ones that are 'defiant' -yours seems to be the 'broken' type) BUT it's not a good idea to ask them to do this because, although it seems as if the bird is agreeing to the touch, in reality, you are just continuing the same flooding that broke their trust in humans in the first place (the fact that she stands with her back to you and does not willing come out of her cage are the clues that tell me this). If you want to help her get over her problem for good, you need to slow down and allow her to take the first steps. This is not really negotiable. You will get results the way you are going but they might not be long term and, if she turns on you after they honeymoon, you will be in trouble because sonnies can bite real hard!
My suggestion to you is put a perch right outside the door of her cage, open the door and speaking very softly and sweetly to her, put a treat on the outside perch and walk away. Do not put your hand inside the cage and ask her to step up, do not hold her, do not cuddle with her, do not do anything physical until she takes the first step. This is VERY important! Parrots are not like dogs and you can't use the same techniques you use with them (what you are doing is a precisely that -getting the animal used to gentle touch after been abused but parrots brains are not wired the same way as dogs). Parrots that have been betrayed by humans through neglect and/or abuse need to refind the trust for humans in and by themselves and that means a very slow process and always allowing the bird to take the next baby step in that direction.
Now, when I say walk away it doesn't mean leave the room, it means staying in the room doing (or pretending to do) something while talking to her (always use her name -the name she had from before, not a new one- and praise her saying things like Good girl! Pretty bird! etc), look at her out of the corner of your eye (staring is a predator behavior) and, every now and then, walk up to the cage and offer her a treat -but, if she doesn't take it, just leave it where she can reach her, don't make her taking a treat from your fingers something she would have to force herself to do. You need to concentrate on making her feel comfortable and that there is no onus whatsoever on her, no 'paying' for a treat, no forcing herself to accept your touch, no nothing.
If you are very careful, very respectful of her wishes and don't get impatient, she will reward you with her complete trust and that is the foundation of a long term loving relationship.