by Pajarita » Sat Oct 10, 2015 9:33 am
I second Wolf's comments, that is the worst advice ever and, obviously, given by somebody who does not know enough about birds and cares even less for them!
Grays are not easy birds and they do bond very deeply to their chosen human, sometimes taking a looooong time before they bond with somebody else after they loose their chosen one but it does happen. I promise you it does and you can take it to the bank! I have a Timneh gray that ended up in NYC Animal Control when found in a high school basketball court (they called the bird club I used to belong to and the president asked me to go get her -she was at the Staten Island facility- as I had a bird rescue at the time). She was quite rough and unfriendly to me and all she knew how to say was F... YOU! in an angry man's voice. She has always preferred men because, obviously, her previous owner had been a man and chose my husband on sight - but my husband is not a parrot lover and although I shamed him into paying a bit of attention to her, it was not enough so slowly but surely she has became more and more friendly to me and now she steps up, perches on my shoulder, kisses me, etc. She would still fly to my husband as soon as she sees him but, if he is not around, she is fine with me. So just be patient and give her time, she will come around. Let her out of her cage by just opening the door. Put perches on the outside of her cage or a playstand near or above it with some toys and produce for her to eat. Spend quiet time with her (grays are big on quiet time), talk, sing, whistle to her, keep her company, offer her a treat every now and then and praise praise praise praise (they LOVE praise!) and, eventually, you will start seeing a change in her.
Now, as to the 'get rid of one of the babies'... well, the thing with ekkies is that if one wants to get them a companion for their own sake, one is better off getting another one of the same gender because ekkies are HIGHLY hormonal birds with breeding seasons that last 9 months in the wild so you need to be very careful and keep them at a super strict solar schedule as well as never feed them high protein (not easy to do in captivity as all parrot foods are high protein). But this doesn't mean that you cannot have a male and female that do get along without a problem and which will not be hormonal all year round! All you have to do is have impeccable husbandry and, in reality, it's the same thing that every parrot requires so...