Patti, I don't know if what I am going to say will make you feel better (I HOPE SO!) or worse but, my dear, none of us should have pet parrots. It's not you, it's captivity with care dependent on the very complicated lifestyles most people have that is the problem. None of us can actually give pet parrots a GOOD life - we all try our best and some of us are lucky that we don't have to leave the house for work but we all fail in one degree or another. You are trying your best, will continue to do so and I am confident that you will find the way to provide them a good life - even if it means rehoming them (not that I am suggesting you do, mind you!, only that all good owners need to consider the possibility as much as we hate the idea).
Wolf is correct in that, if you work, you will have to be able to get both of them out at the same time and, if at all possible, get them to bond with each other. That way, if you are not home, they have company.
I would also suggest you try to get her to calm down a bit as she sounds a bit anxious... Try some AviCalm mixed with linden tea in her water and see if that, added to the extra time and care doesn't do the trick. Make her fly as much as you can -nothing like flying to dissipate stress hormones from their bloodstream. Oh, and make sure you have a good quality full spectrum light (CRI 94+ and Ktemp closer to 5000 than 5500) for during the day as well as a humidifier (the AC dries up the air something terrible!) and that she eats oats (both the UV and the tryptophan in the oats help with the production of serotonin, the 'happy' hormone).