Hi Lynn. I am a new IRN owner myself. My bird is named P.J. and he is just over three months old. I have had him for almost 4 weeks. Have you tried opening your birds cage to see if he/she will come out?
Mine is very curious and came out within the first few days. Mine loves red bell pepper sluces, sunflower seeds(unshelled and unsalted) and peanuts ( unsalted, and in the shell). Make sure you aren't giving her sunflower seeds in her normal diet and you can probably get her to take those from you. I have sat on my couch eating some healthy cereal ( organic granola) and he will hop over and get on my shoulder and of course I will share with him.
I have sort of a journal going with my experiences with P.J. on another forum called BirdBoard.com. Feel free to check it out. I'm learning as I go, but I want so much to stay ahead of P.J. because I really don't want to mess up with him.
Good luck to you and I hope you make some progress soon.