by marie83 » Wed Jul 11, 2012 4:52 pm
Don't you dare give in. I'm a fine example of being the big bad wolf, Ollie was ''my'' bird and hated my boyfriend but then he got sick so for for 3 months Ollie was in a small cage so I could catch him easily 2x a day to give him medication. My other half however did all the fun stuff with him but basicly has no real control of him so I would get in from work and have to catch him, give him his meds, examine him and put him back in his cage. In the morning I would have to grab him out his cage cuz he wouldn't come near me, weigh him, give him his meds and put him back in his cage.
Anyhow as you can imagine he grew to hate/fear me very very quickly despite my best efforts to make all this horrible stuff rewarding. I couldn't get near him at all (hence why he got put in the small cage).
He came off the meds and it took a while for our relationship to recover. I had to literally start from scratch with him training step up, getting him back into his cage etc but in the end our household is a much better place. Ollie has a fairly equal split of affection for both myself and my boyfriend and I can do more with him than ever before, the retaming and training has improved things so much. My boyfriend however still has little control over him though but thats because he refuses to spend time training him.
One thing I will say though is during the initial retaming/training I had to work with him completely alone, if my partner was about he didn't want to know at all and I couldn't do a thing with him cuz he would just fly off.
Anyway I think sennies tend to be one person birds more than conures are but its completely possible to rebuild a tolerant relationship if not switch your birds favourite back (dont bank on the latter but they are sometimes not as loyal as they make out).
Perservere, go back to the very beginning and take your time, be patient and make unpleasent things more rewarding ie loads of rewards or a meal for going back in the cage for example.