I HEAR you!!! My husband and I love each other to pieces and I am sure we could not live without one another -well, we could but just not happily- which doesn't stop me from threatening him with leaving him very often. But we fight ALL THE TIME Only it doesn't bother us at all and my husband is convinced that we lasted this long precisely because we do it (he read somewhere that it's good for couples to argue, that couple that do stay together longer - not that I need any incentive to fight with him