by Grey_Moon » Thu Oct 11, 2012 6:10 pm
Ok.
First---calm down---you and your husband need to make commitments and choices---not ultimatums. A caique is NOT a quiet bird and they've got that shrill whistle call. If you can't accept with and deal with that, please rehome them both.
Getting all wound up and frustrated and 'nothing is working! we've tried *everything*!' isn't helping.
There *IS* a cause for this, especially if you're ignoring it (not storming off in a huff, not ignoring it then losing it and covering her---that's still negative attention).
Personally, I think it was unwise/shortsighted of you to go in saying if the bird was a screamer that you would get rid of it. I.e. if it was imperfect in any way that you wouldn't stand for it. It was especially unwise for you to get a caique. A parrotlet would have been a better choice.
Would you get rid of a child who misbehaved or wasn't exactly what you wanted?
A parrot deserves the same respect and consideration. Also, like a child needs to be allowed to be a child, you need to let a bird be a bird.
With regards to your 'my home is not an aviary...' YOU GOT A BIRD. YOU ARE A FLOCK. YOUR FLOCK LIVES IN ITS AVIARY. Which is your home
I do not understand why if you couldn't handle noise and flight that you got a bird.
Thats like saying you didn't want barking or shedding or the need to walk but got a dog and keep it cooped up inside and silent. Birds need to fly.
They are physically, emotionally and mentally damaged by not being able to do so.
Michael may have been blunt, but he was right. Part of this is a direct result of your ignorance and violation of their essential needs and nature.
NOW---if you can decide to step up to the plate, there's a couple things I would look at to start with:
-Diet---is the diet full of sugar/carbs? Even 'good carbs' like fruit? Like with kids an excess of simple carbs and sugar leads to crankiness, blood sugar swings and hyperactivity. Adding more veggies and complex carbs and protein is a good start. Reduce fruit/sugar/simple carb intake.
-Exercise---part of this is excess energy and tension. Birds need to fly. It feels good. It makes them feel safe.
-Frustration----think about it. Something is obviously going unmet and/or you're confusing her by being inconsistent. She needs something. She needs to know she can communicate with you and reach you. You're only paying attention to her on your terms when she's quiet. What this basically translates into is as long as she's quiet there's the possibility that you *might* depending on your whim come and pay attention. It DOES NOT give her a way to get your attention. That isn't fair and fosters insecurity and frustration. She needs to know there's an appropriate way to get your attention, a call or noise that you will respond to. Reinforce other noises by coming to her/answering her IN ADDITION to ignoring her screeches. Say she's screaming to get out of the cage---ignore her (don't look at her, make a sound, think about how loud she is...pretend she's not even there) for however long it takes. When she finally offers another noise answer her immediately and go let her out. Otherwise you're just stonewalling her---and she keeps screaming because she's desperate to get a need taken care of/contact you.
To boot---she's been screaming and you've been answering!!
You can't expect her to be quiet, and you aren't going to reinforce the noise out of her just by ignoring her till she's quiet. YOU NEED to give her a repetoire to communicate, assert herself and express herself with.
Because she's been intermittently reinforced this may take a while. But if you're just going to be that flaky and give up on her please rehome them both to someone who can make that commitment even when things aren't as they planned.

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Jacko (13 year old TAG rescue and my little turkey-bird girl

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"Love me, Love my parrots"