by Wolf » Mon Dec 08, 2014 7:36 pm
Alright, that is what I was hoping that you wanted, some people get offended when I give them the truth, Although I was being a bit facetious, I also really did want to know where you were.
I don't know how long you have had these two birds, although at 18 weeks of age, I would venture to say about two weeks, maybe. At this age they are both still just babies and even though I don't know what you are feeding them, I am pretty sure that it is not actually as they need to be fed for their stage of development. Both of them should be getting soft foods twice a day in addition to a good quality seed mix for their dinner. They should also get some fresh, raw vegetables and a little fruit along with their breakfast. I personally don't like pellets and I neither use them nor recommend them for any bird, however, realizing that you are not me, you can, if you must, use them in place of a quality seed mix for their dinners.
Most of your questions were concerning your Grey, Dragon, but most of the answers apply equally to both of your birds. By the way, I am happy that you got two birds instead of just one as this is very important for their welfare, and even moreso given their age. I don't know how much experience or knowledge that you have in regards to parrots and as a result I may be telling you things that you already know or not, but in either case I mean no disrespect to you in any way.
At this point in your relationship with your birds, I am assuming that you have not had them for very long, you should be concentrating your efforts on getting to know your birds, and earning their trust and bonding with them, not putting so much effort into their training just yet. In many respects building your relationship with these birds is a lot like building a house. If you want a good sturdy house, you must first make certain that you have a strong foundation. These first few months are when you build your foundation with your birds. This is when you get to know them, their body language, their likes and dislikes and build both your confidence in them as well as theirs in you, this is when they learn about you and you learn their personalities, this is when they decide whether you can be trusted or not. This stage in the forming of your relationship becomes the foundation for their forming a strong bond with you and creates the framework for all that will come in the years ahead. There is plenty of time for training later, this is the time to build your relationship. This is the time to just hang out together and learn about each other. The more time spent hanging out together and talking to them the better. This is also a good time to get them on a good healthy, nutritious diet, and get accustomed to having them on a solar light schedule.
There are many things that you will do with both birds in both building your relationship and in training because it is the right way to proceed and it will work just fine but both birds will respond very differently to these same methods. The are very different birds from each other and they have very different personalities and they like different things or sometimes they like the same thing but like it presented differently, they are going to respond to different things in different ways. They do not " see" the same thing in the same manner. I don't know if you have a brother or not, but if you do then you know that although you were both raised in a similar manner that you are both different and understand thing differently from the other, just as you have different tastes in what you do and do not like. Although there are many similarities between you there are also vast differences and this is the same with your birds. This is heightened by the fact that although they are both parrots, unlike you and your brother ( if you have one) they are of different species. With this being the case how can you reasonably expect them to respond the same to anything. These are a few basics that you should take into account and give some thought to because although these thing apply equally to both birds they are individuals and even thought they respond similarly they are motivated differently.
This is the point where I switch to try to address you specifics concerning Dragon. Ok, I have just reread your specifics and Dragon is trying to communicate to you, by turning her back, that she does not want to do this at this time. She may be wanting to take a nap, or she may just not be in the mood for training right then. I can't say why, but she is trying to let you know so you need to be aware of this attempt to communicate with you and respect her in this and you would be wise to listen to her when she tries to tell you something.
In regards to your concern with her behavior with eating her treats, the first thing that comes to mind to me is that you are being unreasonable, as it is her treat, you gave it to her, she performed for you and you gave it to her and she has the right to eat and enjoy it however she chooses to including the cleaning of her face afterwards. Now that is my opinion on the matter, but in all fairness, perhaps she is not all that hungry at the time or perhaps she is not as impressed as your other bird with that treat meaning that maybe she doesn't like it as much as the other bird. I can't say for certain what is going through her mind, but of this I am certain, if she is cooperating with you then rebelliousness is not any part of it. My Grey always takes her time whenever she eats anything and she stops very often to clean her face and beak when she eats. So I suspect that this difference in taking and eating her treats is just a normal behavior for a Grey. You are undertaking an exercise in futility in expecting two different species of bird to act the same way, it is something like expecting a gorilla and a baboon to act the same.
With the last specific , Dragon is trying to tell you that she doesn't want to go back in the cage as that means being separated from you and she wants to spend some time with you or perhaps more time with you. It could also be that she doesn't want to go in the cage, so perhaps you could consider putting her on her cage as opposed to in it. Many times you can avoid what will become a problem behavior by simply acknowledging what she is saying, in this case that she doesn't want to be put into the cage, by just stopping and walking about for a minute or two talking to her and then asking her to step down in the cage. I know that very often that this is all it takes to get my Grey to willingly go back in her cage when she lets me know that she doesn't want to go in it.
Back to the this applies to both of them type information. You are thinking like you think that a parrot is a domesticated animal like a dog and that it lives in and understands a dominance based hierarchy, both of which are wrong. A parrot is not a domestic animal and it neither understands nor does in live in a dominance based society. Your Grey is not being rebellious in any way, but it also doesn't follow orders either it is not a concept that it understands. Birds live in a flock and are very social to the point that being alone in their natural environment is the same as a death sentence and in captivity being alone is the single most harsh, stressful and abusive thing that you can do to them. Birds band together in groups or flocks in order to protect themselves fro predators, yet each bird is an individual and does not take orders from any other bird in the flock They each one acts together to protect themselves and thus the entire flock from danger of their own volition. There are no alpha birds or flock leaders. You need to rethink your thinking as regards to these wonderful creatures. You are thinking that you can make them to conform to your lifestyle and they simply can't do that. You have to alter your lifestyle to meet their needs. They are not being rebellious, or belligerent or dominant they are just being a bird and specifically they are being a parrot nothing more and nothing less. If you get bit by a parrot and you will, you are the one in error and in nearly all cases you could very easily avoided it.